It's been awhile since I've posted in here. Between work, college, church activities and everyday life keeping up with my blog has been the last thing on my mind. Some recent events have really made me think and I figured the best way to get them out was to come back to this blog.
My desire is to wait for the "right" man, right being the perfect man that God has picked out for me (if He so desires). I don't want to go from boyfriend to boyfriend like it doesn't matter. I want to save my first kiss for my wedding day. I dream of the day that my eyes meet with my True Love that God has set aside for me and the joy that it will bring.
Because of these higher values/standards that I have I won't settle for anything less than God has planned for me.
Recently I've had two different guys/friends ask if I would ever date them. It made me take a step back while I tried to find the right words. I honestly don't see it as going any further than a friendship as I don't feel God is leading me down that road with them, so I politely said that I didn't see anything happening like that between us and still talk to them.
Having been asked by these two guys made me decide that I needed to write down some standards I had in a guy before even thinking about dating them. I always had some sort of an idea in my head but to get it out when I'm in shock because I didn't expect a certain person to ask is another thing altogether. I'll share the top three items from that list to whoever reads this post.
1. He must be a Christian. Not just someone who says that they are a "Christian" but someone that truly loves Christ, strives to have a relationship with Christ, serves Christ and is not afraid of what others may think because he's a Christian.
2. Before getting in a dating relationship with a man I want them to meet my family first. I have a close relationship with my family and my choices effect my family as well. I would want my family's blessing on who I might have a relationship with.
3. He needs to respect my choice in saving my first kiss for marriage. It's a personal choice of mine to help keep myself pure and to make my wedding day more special.
That's just some of my ramblings. I plan to update this blog a little more regularly again.
Elizabeth
-Single and Content
(The wording of this post is terrible. I just wanted to get these thoughts down.)
Here are a few of my thoughts...
ReplyDeleteI am so proud of you for being obedient to Christ in this way. I know how hard it can be to go against the culture and even at times Christians and being firm in what God has spoken to you. I know for me it doesn't make sense to many. It is important as well to know those things that important for you in finding in that future mate.
There has often been times during these past 12 yrs (since God asked me to stop dating and be set apart) that I have said "If I knew it was going to take this long..." or "How much longer, Lord" or "I don't think I signed up for this long of a wait".... Being 35 and single has it's stigmas in culture and sometimes even in the church. Recently though I have been asking myself (conversing with God), what did God really ask me 12 yrs ago...Did He ask me to just wait for my mate??? I am realizing that He asked me much more than that. He asked me to be set apart for HIM...not a mate. He wants me to be pure & holy for Him, regardless of my marital status. I thought He asked me to wait for the benefit of my marriage...but it was so much more. He wants me to go beyond waiting, to something deeper...and not for my mate, but for Him...and through that, my mate, if that happens, will benefit. It is so easy to focus on "waiting for my mate", but I am seeing that it is so much more than that. God wants me set apart, pure & holy for His sake, regardless of my marital status. I see how easy it has been over these years to focus on "my mate", and not on my true Groom...making myself His pure and holy Bride. Just wanted to share as this has been something only recently awaken in my soul.
Thanks, June. Great thoughts!
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